It’s one thing to fail a test, or not meet the quota on your job for the month, it’s another thing to fail yourself. Have you done something lately that you KNOW you shouldn’t have done? Does it make you feel like a personal failure? I want to share with you 3 steps to get you out of this rut.
1. Admittance. You have to be able to admit what you did. It’s a form of facing “it”. If you can’t face it then you won’t be able to move forward and you will be more likely to do the same thing over and over. A lot of times that takes sharing with a trusted advisor, other times it’s an internal thing you just face by yourself.
2. Create New Boundaries. The anxiety of not messing up can often keep you messing up. It’s imperative to set new boundaries that keep you from failing again. This could mean a strong support system or an accountability partner. I do want to shed light on the fact that you can’t set new boundaries, if you are not going to admit your own failures. This is why point 1 is imperative!
3. Don’t Judge Yourself. Here is a better way of saying it. Give yourself the same grace that you would give someone else. You can’t define your entire life based off of one incident or an isolated area of your life. Take time to think about the advice you would give your best friend if they were in your same situation. Would you condemn them or would you encourage them? You are not your mistakes, you are not failures, you are bigger than that. Don’t bind yourself up because of a moment!
Let me hear your thoughts, what do you do to free yourself from he guilt of your mistakes?