The Daddy and His Son


I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s conversation concerning The Daddy and His Daughter, I want to discuss a different relationship dynamic that might even be more important – The Daddy and His Son. The Father is an example to his daughter on what to look for in a man, but the father shows the son how to be a man. This world doesn’t need a new church, elected official, program or political agenda more than it needs positive male role models to be in the forefront of a young males eyes consistently.

The father gives his son his identity, his purpose, and helps direct his passion. More so than any taught lesson, the father does this by example. When the young son doesn’t have that, he is left to have to figure it out on his own, creating his own path and hoping to get it right. The young son looks for their father’s approval in everything they do, and copy those behaviors that they recognize as both successful and familiar.  If you are abusive, controlling, and dominating, those will be the patterns that your sons will imitate and emulate. However, if you are loving, kind, supportive, and protective, your boys will want to be that.

This is the natural cycle things as human beings, we learn by modeled behavior. So if we really want to change our world we must do it first by modeling in front of our children a behavior and a conciseness of good. They will then reproduce what you model, and your children’s children will do the same.

As I see my two sons growing up and maturing into fine young man I’m challenged everyday to exude in front of them the behavior that i would want them to exude as they mature. The bond I’ve built with my boys is intentional, we enjoy the simplest things – watching tv, traveling, dining out, museum tours, exploring new cities, visiting arcades. These boys are my life, they carry my last name and I do what I do for them.

If you are a father reading this blog and you know you haven’t been the best example to your kids it isn’t too late. Make a decision today to change your behavior therefore changing the world!

This blog is dedicated to my eldest son and namesake Tyrus and my youngest Tyrique!

2 thoughts on “The Daddy and His Son

  1. Again, a wonderful example of what a father’s Love should look like.
    Any advice for single mothers raising young men without that male example?

    1. Thank you so much Gloria for your interaction!

      To answer your question in short, I believe that it is best for an individual to connect to their local place of worship which in most cases have some great role models and male mentors. I know for me personally; it was the men at our local church and state affiliation that became primary examples of manhood/fatherhood for me as I was raised primarily by my mom/grandmother and aunts and the positive presence and example of manhood was not available to me in the home. Because of my life events, I am very intentional about maintaining a healthy relationship with my sons. It is important to me that they have the model in the home that I did not have. I was blessed! So many wise and seasoned men stepped in to assist my mom and aunts to ensure that I would be profitable to society. Many many bumps in the road as I struggled with the idea that they were not my father. Thank God, they were persistent is helping my mom.
      I believe that this still exists today. Most dudes (myself being first partaker) are willing to extend themselves to assist in any area possible to help us produce productive more men, fathers, sons, brothers, uncles and nephews in our society.

      While, we may never be able to replace their biological father, we certainly can assist with further character development!

      I hope this helps some. Please let me know if I can offer any additional suggestions.

      Pastor Tyrus

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