I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s conversation concerning The Daddy and His Daughter, I want to discuss a different relationship dynamic that might even be more important – The Daddy and His Son. The Father is an example to his daughter on what to look for in a man, but the father shows the son how to be a man. This world doesn’t need a new church, elected official, program or political agenda more than it needs positive male role models to be in the forefront of a young males eyes consistently.
The father gives his son his identity, his purpose, and helps direct his passion. More so than any taught lesson, the father does this by example. When the young son doesn’t have that, he is left to have to figure it out on his own, creating his own path and hoping to get it right. The young son looks for their father’s approval in everything they do, and copy those behaviors that they recognize as both successful and familiar. If you are abusive, controlling, and dominating, those will be the patterns that your sons will imitate and emulate. However, if you are loving, kind, supportive, and protective, your boys will want to be that.
This is the natural cycle things as human beings, we learn by modeled behavior. So if we really want to change our world we must do it first by modeling in front of our children a behavior and a conciseness of good. They will then reproduce what you model, and your children’s children will do the same.
As I see my two sons growing up and maturing into fine young man I’m challenged everyday to exude in front of them the behavior that i would want them to exude as they mature. The bond I’ve built with my boys is intentional, we enjoy the simplest things – watching tv, traveling, dining out, museum tours, exploring new cities, visiting arcades. These boys are my life, they carry my last name and I do what I do for them.
If you are a father reading this blog and you know you haven’t been the best example to your kids it isn’t too late. Make a decision today to change your behavior therefore changing the world!
This blog is dedicated to my eldest son and namesake Tyrus and my youngest Tyrique!