Very often, we rate our relationships on how much we agree, how alike we are or how much the other person fits in with what we expect of them. We shy away from relationships where the other person ‘never listens to us’ or ‘never takes our advice’. We cut ourselves off from people who do not hold us in the position that we think we should have in their lives. We become disappointed because our expectations are misplaced.
People rarely behave the way we want them to, and that’s ok. We must learn to accept others for who they are. When someone lives up to our expectations, that’s great, but we must remember that they are under no obligation to do so, and they are by no means of less value to our lives because they don’t.
Here a few things that we think are equated to a ‘good’ relationship, but maybe we need to reconsider: they do not have to agree with us; they do not have to be like us; they do not have to fit into our idea of who they should be.
Everybody has something remarkable about them, and every relationship has something to offer. When we learn to love and respect someone for who they really are, we can truly appreciate them.