Take Care of your Relationships

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Who supports us when we struggle? Who comes to our aid when we’re in trouble? Who truly loves us? Who encourages, motivates and challenges us? Most of us would respond to these questions with “our family and friends.” We all can agree that the people who we are in relationship with fulfill these needs. Yet so many of us neglect our relationships. As a result, we make life harder for ourselves. We end up struggling with loneliness, low confidence, or even with the idea that we are on our own and have to do things all by ourselves. This does not have to be the case. We are made to communicate, to be social. Relationships are vital to living a happy life. Relationships are our main way of giving and receiving love.

There is a common misconception that our relationships, once established, will take care of themselves. The reality is that we need to take time to nurture and strengthen the bonds and ties we have with those around us. Whether the relationships are personal or business related, we need to work at sustaining them. God has put within all of us something that is beneficial to someone else. When we begin to share what we have, we will also have the space to receive what God has put within others to share with us.

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Happy New Year Everyone!

I am so excited about all that God has in-store for you in 2016!

2016 has been declared our year of VICTORY and we are more than ready to have victory in every area of our lives.

One thing that I have been so excited about at VIBE Church (Victory in the Believers Experience) is that we have all successfully developed a healthy church culture which consistently lives out our motto “We are making a difference and we love it!”. The Lord has allowed our motto to become a reality for us in a huge way in a very short time. As we continue to make a difference, the opportunity has come for us to do it on a much larger scale.

It is my awesome privilege to announce that January 3, 2016 the VIBE Church will be merging into World Overcomers Christian Church -Raleigh Campus! We are more than excited about taking our Gifts, Talents and Treasures to make an even greater impact in the Kingdom with other like-minded believers.

My sincerest hopes are that you would join with us as we jump in at our NEW CHURCH HOME, World Overcomers Christian Church- Raleigh Campus. Lets continue making a difference while experiencing VICTORY in 2016!

Here is a link to the website. Take a look around so that you will know what to expect when you arrive in the morning.  www.wocconline.org

See you tomorrow!


Burning Bridges – DON’T DO IT.


Happy Thursday.

I wanted to speak with you for a bit about burning bridges. DON’T DO IT! In my younger years I would cut people off at the drop of a dime. It didn’t matter the rhyme or reason. I soon learned a valuable lesson and I’m going to share it with you: “Times change and people do to.” To add to that, those same people could very well be the ones that you will need later. So as a life rule I never burn bridges.

So you may ask, “How do I remove people out of my life that are negative for me?” Well I’m glad you asked!

Instead of burning the bridge, how about create more space in between you and them. The only way people can bring negativity to your life is if you give them access. It they don’t have access they can’t affect you, UNLESS you were the issue in the first place, but that is another blog for another day.

Creating space isn’t a bad thing, and it’s easier to do and can salvage a relationship that could possibly be a benefit for you in the future. Here is someways to create more space between you and an individual.

  1. Structure conversations. If you absolutely have to communicate with this person on a regular basis, then you lead the conversation. Only talk about what is necessary, don’t allow the content to drift into areas that are too personal. This doesn’t mean you have to be rude, but be firm on handling business when dealing with them.
  2. Set a time limit. Since the Holidays are coming up, let’s use this example. If you know that every time you go over a certain family members house, the visit always lead to a negative experience then set a time limit. Before you arrive set how long you will stay, and when that your time is up, give everybody a warm salutation and leave. This will lessen the chances of overstaying and giving room for something to go wrong.
  3. Set expectations. Don’t allow this person to cross certain boundaries and when they do communicate that to them as much as it takes until they stop, and are fully aware not to cross your lines.

Now before I conclude, I need to let you in on a little secret. If you can do the above mentioned steps in a good spirit (not being rude or nasty) 9 times out of 10 the person will cut you off or straighten up to salvage the relationship. This keeps the proverbial blood off of your hands and serves as a litmus test on how true the relationship really is. 😉

Don’t allow people to wreck havoc in your life, but at the same time don’t be in the habit of burning bridges. Managing people is like managing money, you have to know when to invest, save, and/or spend.

Have a good day folks!



 I Just wanted to have a quick and candid Saturday conversation with you about how being so “consumed” can really mess with your goals. 
I remember in November/December of 2014, I had set some personal goals to have accomplished by close of 2015. As a read over my list of goals, I realized that I had only accomplished one and that was not even to its fullest potential. I remember saying that I would weigh about 180 pounds, I would complete my property manager certification, complete at least two of the books that I had already written for print and publishing, enroll in the Masters in Divinity program again (2nd time) and upgrade all of my private family stuff. 
Well, you might say “at least you are still here” and to that I must agree and say “only by the grace of God”. 
As I reflect and prepare for my 2015 end of year consecration, my prayer is now “Lord, help me not to be consumed again!.” 

I had gotten so consumed with my workplace advancement (1goal) and advancement in the marketplace, that I completely neglected to keep pursuing those other goals that would have secured and solidified me on another level. 
While this has been an amazing year, it has also been an eye opening year. 
Let’s see…… I began the year with a very interesting workplace dynamic which included extremely long days and multi tasking upper management task in their absence for a couple of months, had the flu and pneumonia for the first time ever, then was injured after the recovery from the flu, completed the property manager course and then was full of heavy medication the day of the exam due to injury (so you know how that ended up), had the challenge of learning how to live on disability pay for 3 months, suffered major family loss during the summer only to return to work to be laid off within 60 days. 
The problem is not the events, that’s just life happening. The problem was that the thing that consumed me the most actually got rid of me when there was no longer a need or use. I was so busy with one goal that I totally neglected the others. 
As you come to a close of 2015, take a look at your journal or personal notes from January 2015 and compare them to your now. If you have accomplished all of them, then challenge yourself more for 2016. If you are like me and have not, then map it out! Be more intentional about everything and not just one thing.
It’s okay to pursue goals, but please don’t allow just one to consume you so much that you neglect all the others! 
Both of us will have an amazing and goal accomplishing 2016 because we are vowing today not to be consumed by any one thing! 

Join the conversation and leave me a note or comment. Talk soon. Have a great weekend my friend! 

Be Thankful For What You Have and You Will End Up Having More


We are in a new month, while fastly approaching the end of an old year! OH, how GOOD God has been to us to this year. For the month of November, I want to emphasize the importance of being thankFULL.

In 1Tessalonians 5:18 the Bible tells us “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” What a fitting scripture to think on as we approach this Holiday Season of Thanksgiving. For believers and non-believers alike, this biblical saying is true for all those who wish to live a positive, healthy life. God’s concern for us is to profit from every occurrence in life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. But really what is there to gain in being thankful for the bad? And just how easy is it to ‘give thanks’? This week I will be sharing 5 points to consider about giving thanks:

1) Be Thankful For What You Have and You Will End Up Having More

The above is the opening to a quote emphasizing that when we recognize what we have we will realize we actually have more than enough. The more you give thanks, the more things you will find to be thankful for. Studies have shown that the simple practice of thankfulness and gratitude can enhance our lives even in the most fundamental but most essential skill of building social bonds and fortify existing relationships. Think of this not only from a personal perspective, but reflect on business and co-worker relationships also. When we realize the importance and value of the people we are around daily, we treat them better and seek to reciprocate the kindness we have experienced from them. They in turn do the same and a cycle of giving and receiving appreciation is created. The positive emotions that stem out of this cycle fuel and promote growth in individuals and communities as kind acts and moral conduct is stimulated. A thankful person is a more positive person, and positive people are better liked by others and more likely to win friends, associates and business partners. Who knew that being thankful could be the key to connecting with the right person? We all have something to gain personally and collectively when we foster the right relationships.