5K Donation In 2019

This year looking for sponsors to help us donate 5K (Five Thousand dollars) to St. Jude when I participate in the 5K run this September.

We participated last year and had a blast, this year will only be better. We even have a team ready to run with us.

All proceeds from the book sales will be used towards reaching our goal.

This is a great resource that so many people need to assist them with navigating through the emotional side of any type of diagnosis. So if not for you, grab a few for friends.

Click on the link and purchase your copy today. We will even deliver it to the charity/person of your choice, just provide the address.

Thank you in advance for your support!

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Adaptation is Crucial

Most of us are creatures of comfort. We work at getting things just the way we want it and then don’t want it to change. But in this ever changing world, failure to implement change will leave you behind and irrelevant. Our refusal to adapt unfortunately can hinder our growth and progress. Change can be a hard thing to deal with, but, as you may have noticed, technology, ideas and events are causing change to happen at an astounding speed. Being able to adapt and adjust is crucial if you want to grow and succeed in your career and in life in general.

Some changes are exciting and inspiring and so they are welcomed with open arms. But what happens when the change is unwelcome? The first step is acceptance. Understand that it’s going to happen whether we want it or not. This means letting go of thoughts and feelings of how it ‘used to be’ and finding the opportunities that the change will bring about. Keep a positive attitude about what’s happening.

Then we need to set new goals. Change can be difficult because we have to embrace a new direction and it can make us feel vulnerable. Setting new goals will keep you focused and remind you of the purpose. It helps to clear the mind of the old way and puts you on a clear course of action.

Progression only takes place where movement can happen. Keep in mind the bigger picture. Don’t let the fear of change keep you boxed in and limit who you are. Change will cause you to stretch yourself beyond the boundaries you have set for yourself, and you’ll find you can accomplish more that you thought.

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You Can Make an Impact

It’s Friday, I hope you have had a great week! I want us to take some time today to reflect on the impact we make on others. The market place is where God has allowed you to be placed so that you can impact and influence others. Not everyone will come through the doors of the church, but it’s amazing how many people we come into contact with on a daily basis.

Change the way you view your job or your business. It is not just a way for you to make money, or to ‘make ends meet’. We have a responsibility to be the best at what we do to fulfill the role we play as part of the Body of Christ.

Use your skill set to help others. Take what you are good at and create a business out of it. It might not be a mighty corporation (yet), but it is an opportunity to serve others.

Learn as much as you can. Influence is given to those who are recognized for their exceptional skill. Whatever it is that you do, you become influential when you can teach, and inspire someone else to model what you do well.

You have been specifically equipped to meet the needs of others, and in doing so your needs will also be met. Take a new approach to the marketplace and use today to make an impact on someone for the better.

 

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Life Questions?? Part 1

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I had a very interesting conversation with someone today who was apparently frazzled as their planned scheduled had been ripped from them by some unexpected events. They were very involved in the conversation as normal and if I hadn’t been paying attention I would have assumed they were alright. Instead, I kept feeling this nag at me that wouldn’t let me go, so I mentioned to them how I felt and they begin to divulge how they are a little unraveled and they have the bad habit of taking care of other people and not taking care of themselves.

I wanted to ask you the LIFE QUESTIONS that I asked her and that was, “Who told you it was ok to not take care of you?” “What happened in your life that made you settle for taking care of everyone else and dismissing yourself?”

I could tell those questions stung her to her core as she was faced with answering something she probably never ever has been asked or forced to think about asking before. Now you all must understand my heart for the platform that I speak into your lives with everyday. It’s all about empowering you, if i’m not doing that I might as well point my energy towards something else. With that being said, I need to tell you that taking care of other people to the point where you are bankrupt is one of the most disempowering things you can do to yourself. You hurt you and others around you when you fail to rejuvenate. When you fail to heal. When you fail to be weak. <—— Did you just read that last sentence? See you’ll never know strength until you’ve embraced and slept with weakness. Some of you are so busy trying to be super that you start to believe that you really are. When you slip into that type of psychosis, you fail to live life. You miss opportunities for love, to seize moments, to stop and take in the goodness that life has to offer.

Do you have it? I think you got it! I’m looking forward to sharing more with you this week concerning Life Questions, as we lead up into the American Holiday, Thanksgiving.

 

Burning Bridges – DON’T DO IT.

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Happy Thursday.

I wanted to speak with you for a bit about burning bridges. DON’T DO IT! In my younger years I would cut people off at the drop of a dime. It didn’t matter the rhyme or reason. I soon learned a valuable lesson and I’m going to share it with you: “Times change and people do to.” To add to that, those same people could very well be the ones that you will need later. So as a life rule I never burn bridges.

So you may ask, “How do I remove people out of my life that are negative for me?” Well I’m glad you asked!

Instead of burning the bridge, how about create more space in between you and them. The only way people can bring negativity to your life is if you give them access. It they don’t have access they can’t affect you, UNLESS you were the issue in the first place, but that is another blog for another day.

Creating space isn’t a bad thing, and it’s easier to do and can salvage a relationship that could possibly be a benefit for you in the future. Here is someways to create more space between you and an individual.

  1. Structure conversations. If you absolutely have to communicate with this person on a regular basis, then you lead the conversation. Only talk about what is necessary, don’t allow the content to drift into areas that are too personal. This doesn’t mean you have to be rude, but be firm on handling business when dealing with them.
  2. Set a time limit. Since the Holidays are coming up, let’s use this example. If you know that every time you go over a certain family members house, the visit always lead to a negative experience then set a time limit. Before you arrive set how long you will stay, and when that your time is up, give everybody a warm salutation and leave. This will lessen the chances of overstaying and giving room for something to go wrong.
  3. Set expectations. Don’t allow this person to cross certain boundaries and when they do communicate that to them as much as it takes until they stop, and are fully aware not to cross your lines.

Now before I conclude, I need to let you in on a little secret. If you can do the above mentioned steps in a good spirit (not being rude or nasty) 9 times out of 10 the person will cut you off or straighten up to salvage the relationship. This keeps the proverbial blood off of your hands and serves as a litmus test on how true the relationship really is. 😉

Don’t allow people to wreck havoc in your life, but at the same time don’t be in the habit of burning bridges. Managing people is like managing money, you have to know when to invest, save, and/or spend.

Have a good day folks!

 

CONSUMED

 I Just wanted to have a quick and candid Saturday conversation with you about how being so “consumed” can really mess with your goals. 
I remember in November/December of 2014, I had set some personal goals to have accomplished by close of 2015. As a read over my list of goals, I realized that I had only accomplished one and that was not even to its fullest potential. I remember saying that I would weigh about 180 pounds, I would complete my property manager certification, complete at least two of the books that I had already written for print and publishing, enroll in the Masters in Divinity program again (2nd time) and upgrade all of my private family stuff. 
Well, you might say “at least you are still here” and to that I must agree and say “only by the grace of God”. 
As I reflect and prepare for my 2015 end of year consecration, my prayer is now “Lord, help me not to be consumed again!.” 

I had gotten so consumed with my workplace advancement (1goal) and advancement in the marketplace, that I completely neglected to keep pursuing those other goals that would have secured and solidified me on another level. 
While this has been an amazing year, it has also been an eye opening year. 
Let’s see…… I began the year with a very interesting workplace dynamic which included extremely long days and multi tasking upper management task in their absence for a couple of months, had the flu and pneumonia for the first time ever, then was injured after the recovery from the flu, completed the property manager course and then was full of heavy medication the day of the exam due to injury (so you know how that ended up), had the challenge of learning how to live on disability pay for 3 months, suffered major family loss during the summer only to return to work to be laid off within 60 days. 
The problem is not the events, that’s just life happening. The problem was that the thing that consumed me the most actually got rid of me when there was no longer a need or use. I was so busy with one goal that I totally neglected the others. 
As you come to a close of 2015, take a look at your journal or personal notes from January 2015 and compare them to your now. If you have accomplished all of them, then challenge yourself more for 2016. If you are like me and have not, then map it out! Be more intentional about everything and not just one thing.
It’s okay to pursue goals, but please don’t allow just one to consume you so much that you neglect all the others! 
Both of us will have an amazing and goal accomplishing 2016 because we are vowing today not to be consumed by any one thing! 

Join the conversation and leave me a note or comment. Talk soon. Have a great weekend my friend!