Staying Positive


It has been a wonderful journey this week. I hope you have enjoyed these points as much as I have! Read below to discover how to stay positive.

5) Staying Positive

We don’t always get what we want, but there are others who will never have what we have right now. Being thankful dispels negative emotions and leaves no place for complaining. Literally counting your blessings one by one will leave you in a positive, appreciative disposition finding joy in even the smallest things in life. Acknowledge everything you receive and take nothing for granted.

Having more possessions does not mean that you have more to be thankful for. I hope this blog encourages you to practice turning your thoughts of thankfulness, even for the smallest things, into the action of gratitude by expressing to God and man your love and appreciation.



There are so many wonderful things happening at VIBE CHURCH and I just wanted to take a few moments of your time today and share just a few of the many things that I am excited about.

1- “Showtime” at Vibe Church this Wednesday Night at 7PM
Whatever walk of life you are in, one thing that is constant with everyone is challenge. I feel a strong press in my spirit to encourage my brothers and sisters in the faith. This Wednesday we will take a dive into the scriptures about one simple challenge in the bible that turned into what seemed like a “showtime” event for all that were present.

2- Power Couples fellowship this Friday night in Brier Creek at 7PM
Its that time again for First and I to host our Power Couples Fellowship. I believe this is a very appropriate time to host this fellowship without our children while we are teaching the family series entitled “Blended”. This evening promises to be filled with Laughter, Encouragement, Empowerment and Inspiration. This event is free and open to the public. We just ask that you register by emailing and we will respond with all of the event details.

3- Conclusion of the “Blended” family series this weekend
This series has been nothing short of amazing and definitely a joy for me to teach. Sermon topics like; The Family Foundation, Can I trust you and Can I ask you a question. This weekend I will wrap it all up. Bring the entire family!
If you are seeking a place where everyone can enjoy the Sunday experience and receive at every life stage, visit this weekend. It will be 90 unforgettable minutes!

4- CD’s from the “Flip Flops” and “Blended” series will be available this weekend
We have had some very powerful teaching at the Vibe Church this entire year! More specifically this last two months we have focused on relationships and families. This weekend, you will be able to purchase copies of the most recent teaching series in the hospitality center at Vibe. There are just some things that you want to be a part of your media library.

You are invited to join us for the entire month of October as Vibe Church goes pink in recognition of breast cancer awareness month.
We will have our pink life t-shirts available for onsite purchase every weekend. I will kick off the “POWER” series. You should come and bring some of your closest family and friends. I want you to wear your wildest and wackiest pink outfits this month. It promises to be great!



From the September Sermon Series Blended

Honesty is fairness and straightforwardness of conduct. Sounds easy right? To be fair and straightforward all the time without fail is actually a challenge to say the least. It’s easier to lie to yourself or others versus telling the truth. To divulge the insufficiencies of loved ones, members, and/or employees can be gut wrenching at the least. Let alone when we are faced with the opportunity to divulge our own insufficiencies it is even worse. As a father, manger, and Sr. Leader of a growing organization I always have to be honest about something or somebody, even if that something or somebody is ME. As you may know, the series that I’m teaching at my church for September is entitled, “Blended” It speaks of the challenges that most untraditional families are faced with as they blend into a single family structure. One of the challenges is honesty.

Honesty Must be Taught

Honesty is not natural, it is taught. Yes, let that sink in, honesty is taught, then reinforced by example or life lessons. It’s called Moral Intelligence. If a person is not honest, they were taught how not to be honest, as well there were examples that reinforced dishonesty to them repeatedly. Let’s take a moment of introspection, what have the examples in your life taught you? Also, what are you currently teaching? This is so important because it enables each individual with the ability to breed a culture of honesty in their microcosm, and if done consistently will cause a subtle, but impactful change in their community.

What Does it Take to be Honest?

We live in a society that appreciates the person who puts on good appearances. Due to the popularity and necessity of social networks and reality TV etc. what’s real and honest can be easily traded for what is superficial. Operating under this consciousness over a period of time knowing or unknowingly creates dissociative behaviors that if not recognized, can become clinical. Going against the grain and demanding that you live in truth and tell the truth, will inadvertently set you against the masses of this culture. Below are 4 of the many things you have to have to be honest.

  1. It takes a security in who you are and what you are to be an honest person.

You have to be comfortable saying things that are opposite of the opinionated majority. If you don’t like confrontation, or you are overly concerned with other’s opinions of you, it is very likely you are not as honest as you think you are.

  1. You must be secure in the meaningful relationships in your life.

Many times people are dishonest because they are afraid that relationships will be ruined by truth. The reality is, if telling the truth can ruin a relationship, then your relationship is more than likely false. Real relationships are based on likeness and secured in truth. Let’s take a test, practice being 100% honest in all of your relationships. The results might be very telling!

  1. You must be dedicated to the truth whether it’s for you or against you.

Do you know that one person that dishes out the harsh-full truth at others expense, but require love and delicacy when they are being confronted? Yes, I do too! That person is not a person of truth. They are a hypocrite at best. To be honest, you have to be dedicated to the truth whether you are giving it or receiving it. Proverbs 21:2 states in the IES version, “Every man’s lifestyle is proper in his on view, but the Lord weighs the heart.” The first part of this proverb screams to me that we can fool ourselves into thinking we are right when we are not. If you are not a person that is open to letting loved ones offer you corrective criticism, then you are person that is blind and full of character insufficiencies. OUCH! Yes, I know that hurt, but I am just being “honest”.

  1. The responsibility of Love Ones

As I started off with, telling the truth isn’t easy, especially if a person is not use to being truthful and attempting to turn over a new leaf. Did you know that you have a responsibility to assisting your loved ones in being honest? Your responsibility is your response; it must be non-judgmental and open. Especially if someone is confessing to you their faults, you must be mature enough to hear someone’s dirt without making them feel dirty! This is why honesty will test relationships, because both parties have a responsibility in the exchange, the truth giver and the truth receiver.

I am burdened by the numerous of homes that are being destroyed because of the lack of honesty. As I am teaching from the September Sermon Series “Blended” I’m discovering that honesty is one of the key factors that will propagate the mesh of blended families. If you are in the greater Raleigh, North Carolina area, I would love for you to join me at Vibe Church located at Heather Hills Country Club 901 Claymore Drive Garner NC 27529. I really feel that this series will touch you and your family’s heart!

Did The Brady Bunch Get it Right?

September Sermon Series

From the September Sermon Series Blended

Do you remember that every so popular television show “The Brady Bunch”? Mike Brady is a widowed architect with three sons, who marries Carol Martin who has three daughters, and though there were many challenges faced as this family of eight blended- by the end of the sitcom, the issue was addressed, and the outcome was always positive.

The reality is that the picture perfect seamless blend that The Brady Bunch painted for us viewers, is not reality at all. In a world where about 75% of divorced persons remarry and 65% of remarriages involve children from the prior marriage, the blended family has become the new traditional home and the issues that rise from this blend can’t be fixed in a 30 minute sitcom.

If you are married you can attest to this truth: MARRIAGE AIN’T EASY. Now the aforementioned statement does not testify of the Love I have for my spouse. However, it does testify of the tediousness of two lives becoming one. This takes years of work and communication, you must have resolve, and compromise is a necessity. With that being said, consider the same process, but now add children and/or step children into this algebraic equation. Without skillful communication and setting realistic goals you’ll find yourself in the 60% of blended families that end in divorce. Generally it takes 4 – 7 years before a blended family can find their own unique rhythm. Remember The Brady Bunch Premise was as seen on TV only, you’ll never find it anywhere else. What you will find is traditional roles being redefined and new roles emerging as families start the blending process. Because of the variableness of human beings the challenge of unpredictability is inevitable. There is no proper forecast that will give you a heads up on the future, so deal in the now. For example if your new spouse’s child does not recognize you as their new step-parent, you shouldn’t force yourself on that child parentally. The reality is, that child might not ever accept you as a parent, and that is ok. Don’t forfeit the potential to make something great out of an unconventional outcome for the smoking mirror of an unrealistic outcome.

As a community leader and lead pastor of Vibe Church I’m compelled to spend the entire month of September breaking down ideologies that are cancerous to this sub-culture called Blended Families. I want to do my part in dismantling the staggering statistics previously discussed. Join me at any of The Vibe Church Sunday sessions starting at 10:30 am as we explore the sermon series “Blended”.