Dressing for Success

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Before you say a single word to the interviewer, you have already made an impression based on how you’re dressed. The guidelines given here are commonly accepted as appropriate for interviewing. Every company has a different dress code; how you dress at the job may have very little to do with how you dress for an interview.

Men

  • Dress in a manner that is professionally appropriate to the position for which you are applying. In almost all cases, this means wearing a suit. It is rarely appropriate to “dress down” for an interview, regardless of company dress code policy. When in doubt, go conservative.
  • You should wear a suit to interviews. “Suit” means the works: a matching jacket and pants, dress shirt, tie, coordinating socks and dress shoes. A dark-colored suit with light colored shirt is your best option.
  • Clothing should be neat, clean, and pressed. If you don’t have an iron, either buy one or be prepared to visit the dry-cleaner’s often. Shower or bathe the morning of the interview. Wear deodorant. Don’t wear cologne or aftershave. You don’t want to smell overpowering or worse, cause an allergic reaction.

Women

  • Generally, you should wear a suit with a skirt or pants.  When in doubt, be more conservative.
  • Interview suits should be simple and dark in color. Anything tight, bright, short, or sheer should absolutely be avoided. (Interviewers have been known to complain about the length of interviewees’ skirts; if you have any doubts, it’s probably too short.) Knee-length skirts are suggested. Very long skirts, while modest, are also considered too trendy for an interview.
  • Keep your jewelry and hair accessories to a minimum, and stick to those that are not flashy, distracting, or shiny. One ring per hand is best.

Remember we are suppose to govern all seven mountains of influence. We can’t do it if we don’t look the par. Step out on Faith and apply for “that” job, and when they call you for the interview remember these important steps above.

The Power of Social Media

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Hello guys I wanted to talk to you about the power of social media. It has been the death or life of many people. One tweet, post, send, update can change you life forever. Specifically when it comes to people considering you for employment, giving you a raise, obtaining a client, or signing a new contract etc.

Let me ask you this? What does your social media say about you? Does it say you are a well put together astute individual or does it say that your life is full of drama and you have a hard time getting along with people? Well you should know that the answer to that question can be the difference between someone hiring you or someone firing you. Social media has literally became the new resume.

Here are some tips to remember while using your social media.

Get a Professional Profile Picture. No matter what social network platform you are on, choosing the right profile picture is like choosing the appropriate attire for a formal affair. It’s typically the first thing people will see. If you don’t have a professional photo (not a selfie) then you are not really ready for the marketplace anyway. You should make it your priority PRIORITY to get professionally photos ASAP.

Diversify your post. Don’t just put up post of what your child wears when they go to school everyday or of your favorite basketball sport and/or team. You should post about an array of topics that interest you (be organic with it – if it doesn’t interest you don’t talk about it for show.) For example, one business post, one personal post, one political post a day. This shows that you have depth as an individual and not just a one trick pony.

Accumulate Yourself on all Platforms. I know you have a favorite social media platform, but the reality is #AllSocialNetworkPlatformsMatter. Your next client, gig, supervisor, million dollar contract could be on the platform you don’t prefer.

Social media is relevant and important in our culture, you can’t get around it. Put your best foot forward and I wish you all the best!

What to Do When Divorce is an Option

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When a staggering 40 – 50% of marriages will end in divorce in America I think that raises just cause to talk about the D word! Ladies and Gentlemen divorce is real, no matter your socioeconomic background, race and/or creed if not careful you can end up on the other side of marriage. I’ve heard friends tell me that the affects of divorce is like someone killing you on the inside, they say it feels like death.

I can imagine, no matter the length of time, spending any amount of time mending your lives as one then having to rip it a part is something I wouldn’t wish on my best enemy. So I don’t want to paint a false vision or give you a false hope. So let’s just cut to the chase and talk about what to do when divorce IS an option.

Watch how long you stay isolated. Going through a divorce can make you feel lonely, and you may even feel like you’re losing friendships especially if you and your spouse shared mutual relationships. Focus on reaching out to your closest friends so you have a support group. It’s also a good idea to talk to other folks who have been through a divorce.

Your Needs Matter. When you’re in the midst of a divorce, it’s easy to forget about taking care of yourself. Your kids needs you to be at your best so they can be taken care of as well. Make sure to eat healthy and get enough sleep. You should also provide more structure in your life. Set up a daily plan, so your life doesn’t feel so overwhelming. And remember to pencil in some fun! We all feel better when we have something to look forward to.

Remember the dust always settles. It’s important to allow yourself some time to feel the pains of divorce, but you don’t want sadness to be your default emotion. If you’re a ‘Debbie Downer’ all of the time, your friends and co-workers may actually start to avoid you. Attempt to find humor in life. Keep in mind that things will get better with the passage of time. Once you get through the initial stages of the divorce you might actually find comfort in being free from your marriage.

If these points are helped you leave a comment below or even a question!

Confrontation Before Elevation

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Happy Wednesday folks!

I hope your week has gone extremely well thus far.

I wanted to speak to you briefly along the lines of yesterday’s blog. Just as empowering as the word No is, confrontation is empowering as well. (Reference yesterday’s blog) Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to go pick fights with everyone, but I’m saying there are issues that need to be resolved that are keeping you from growth. These issues could be with family members, co-workers, church leadership, or even your spouse or children. I used those examples on purpose because sometimes confronting means the risk of loosing a close relationship. I alluded to this yesterday and I’ll say it again today, anything that promotes you to loose yourself must be dealt with properly.

There is a scripture, to be exact Hebrews 12:1 that says, “let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.” Growing up I heard the scripture explained in terms of sin, doubt or disbelief. As well as the aforementioned we have to consider that unresolved issues are just as weighty as blatant sin. It creates a weight on your emotions that is a direct effect to your Faith and we all know that it is impossible to please God without Faith. Not to mention, unresolved issues has a direct effect on your physical body. 

Today I want to challenge you to make a list of every un-dealt with issue and make a deadline where you will handle every issue. I believe your next days will be your better days, but there must be some preparation on your part or you won’t be able to experience better at the magnitude that has been set for you. Clear up the baggage and prepare to move forward, confronting EVERYTHING that has been weighing you down!

The Power of NO

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From a child we have been warned about the guile of peer pressure. Not following the crowd. Standing up against right. It’s a part of the life lessons of childhood. What they didn’t teach us (at least as far as I can recollect) is how hard it is sometimes to say no. As well, what no is connected with. No is connected with loosing friends, being an outcast, and feeling vulnerable. It also means you run the risk of hurting someones feelings.

Yet in still, NO is a powerful word.

No is a measuring tool  which we can establish and maintain healthy space and self identity. No speaks loudly, “This is who I am; this is what I value; this is what I will and will not do; this is how I will choose to act.” There is nothing wrong with loving others, giving to others,  and cooperating with others, but that shouldn’t come at the risk of loosing our self.  When it does NO is in order!

No empowers you to create your own limits. Most of us need this self-in-charge-and-wholly-responsible empowerment that comes with the word no. This empowerment has no cost to it (financially that is) and you can start today! Create boundaries and when anything or any person tries to cross them – Just say No!

Trusting in Him

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One thing I know for sure is the world is filled with uncertainties. From terrorism, to the economy– not one second past the present is really guaranteed. With that being said I often wonder how those who don’t believe in anything greater than them handle the inescapable trouble of life. I’m reminded of the scripture

Psalms 61:2 From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

This scriptures totally sums up my life— when life gets hard I reach out to something that is bigger and better than what I am and he helps me EVERY TIME. See it’s my Faith that gives me the strength to do what I do. My Faith fuels my smile, my drive and my temperament. It is the motherboard of my soul. Without faith, I’m left to myself and my own reasons.

Psalms 3:5 – 7 says:

5. Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.6. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. 7. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

This is the benefit of trusting someone higher than you – I’m not stuck with my own understanding. The truth of the matter is I don’t understand it all and I can’t figure it all out all the time, but when I pray he gives me direction.

I want to encourage you today to not take it all on yourself. This is what God is for, take time right now to talk to him, give him all your troubles, he’ll give you an understanding that’s far beyond what you can see right now.

Dealing with Stress

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Hey guys I was recently speaking to someone who seemed very bothered so I asked him what was wrong. As he begin to rant off several things that wasn’t going as planned, I realized that his issues wasn’t the things per se, he was just stressed. So I gave him some advice that I wanted to share with you to apply to your life when you start to get overwhelmed.

  1. Check Your Perception. Know this, stress can change your perception. What you would normally consider as menial, seemingly  becomes real big after stress is introduced. Make sure that your perceptions haven’t been warped by pressure by keeping strong counsel around you. (Ecclesiastes 4:9 says Two are better than one,
    because they have a good return for their labor:) Having a team and/or support system will serve you well and keep your outlook objective.
  2. Rest. When we have a lot on our minds we tend to get little to no rest. Resting is the way the body was designed to renew itself. If you don’t rest, you can’t be your best, and that will affect your production, agility, and your overall mentality. I know you are over consumed with whatever is challenging you, but  you have to do what it takes to rest!
  3. Find your center. Just as much as we need to be clear headed to have proper rest, we need to be clear headed to properly pray. If your mind is jumping from one thought to the next, riddled with worry you will have a challenging time connecting with God who IS peace. You have to be able to create a space of peace in your life where God lives, and be able to connect to that space at any time, any place, and disconnect from this natural world and it’s worry.

Doing these three things alone will keep you when the pressures of life are trying to take you under! Leave your comments and let me know what are some other ways you like to deal with stress.