Honesty

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What Does it Take to be Honest?

We live in a society that appreciates the person who puts on good appearances. Due to the popularity and necessity of social networks and reality TV etc. what’s real and honest can be easily traded for what is superficial. Operating under this consciousness over a period of time knowing or unknowingly creates dissociative behaviors that if not recognized, can become clinical. Going against the grain and demanding that you live in truth and tell the truth, will inadvertently set you against the masses of this culture. Below are 3 of the many things you have to have to be honest.

  1. It takes a security in who you are and what you are to be an honest person.

You have to be comfortable saying things that are opposite of the opinionated majority. If you don’t like confrontation, or you are overly concerned with other’s opinions of you, it is very likely you are not as honest as you think you are.

  1. You must be secure in the meaningful relationships in your life.

Many times people are dishonest because they are afraid that relationships will be ruined by truth. The reality is, if telling the truth can ruin a relationship, then your relationship is more than likely false. Real relationships are based on likeness and secured in truth. Let’s take a test, practice being 100% honest in all of your relationships. The results might be very telling!

  1. You must be dedicated to the truth whether it’s for you or against you.

Do you know that one person that dishes out the harsh-full truth at others expense, but require love and delicacy when they are being confronted? Yes, I do too! That person is not a person of truth. They are a hypocrite at best. To be honest, you have to be dedicated to the truth whether you are giving it or receiving it. Proverbs 21:2 states in the IES version, “Every man’s lifestyle is proper in his on view, but the Lord weighs the heart.” The first part of this proverb screams to me that we can fool ourselves into thinking we are right when we are not. If you are not a person that is open to letting loved ones offer you corrective criticism, then you are person that is blind and full of character inefficiencies. OUCH! Yes, I know that hurt, but I am just being “honest”.

Let’s try honesty on for the remainder of the year and see how it looks on you. i have a feeling it will look great!

Sometimes You Have to Let Them Go.

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Hey Family – Hope you guys are well. I need to discuss with you something that can really be the difference between failure and success.

People are an important factor in your life. No man is an island and for that we all should be glad. People accent our lives with color, they bring laughter, relationship, and companionship. To that fact, when God wants to get something to you He uses a person or a group of people. Just as much as having a person or a people in your life is NECESSARY for success, to the contrary having the wrong person on your life could easily thwart all the good that is suppose to come to you.

So we understand that we need the right people in our lives, let’s go a little deeper. There are times where you are forced to get someone out of your life that you love or even more importantly actually like. Yes, sometimes your closest friend is the worse enemy to your destiny. Being with them will serve you laughter today but, tears on tomorrow. Typically with our loved ones, we tend to ignore the signs that life gives us to let them go. After all this is the person you kick it with, this is the girlfriend that you call when you want to have girls night out, this is THAT guy. Yes I know, I know – but did it even occur to you that keeping this person or people in your life though  it isn’t upsetting your now has completely stunted your future.

Sometimes people, especially friends and family that really love us work hard to keep us where we are at. They enjoy our now, but they are not quite ready for our future. Have you been holding on to people you KNOW life/God/The Universe has been telling you – LET GO! If that’s you – you can also agree that you’ve been filling stagnant and stuck, while it seems everyone around you is doing just fine. I want to challenge you today to break yourself free by letting them go!

Have you been lying?

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Have you ever just wanted to lie? No not rest, I mean like tell a big fat juicy lie. It’s very tempting at times when we are backed into a corner and we have to choose between disrupting the peace or outright speaking falsely. I want to talk to you today about the importance of telling the truth.

1. Honesty promotes authenticity. Honesty is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings. If you want people to know who you really are, be honest.

2. Honesty fosters courage. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is doing what you know you want or need to do, despite your fear. It takes an immense amount of courage to say what you feel. It is often difficult and takes practice and patience, but he payoffs are enormous.

3. Honesty shows maturity and self-acceptance. There can often be hurt and pain associated with honesty. A mature person conveys honest expression in a style that minimizes painful impact. When others are hurt, the mature, self-accepting person remains in the relationship to work through any pain experienced by the other person.

So there you have it. Let’s put our focus on just simply being honest.

I want to hear from you, what are you thoughts? Leave your comments below.

The Matters of Money – Part 5

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Happy Friday!

We are concluding The Matters of Money week and I want to thank all of the followers and visitors of this blog for hanging out with me.

Today I want to talk about the role of the believer, as it relates to money. Now this might get a little tight through here only because the church has received such a bad wrap about how they collect money and what they do with it afterwards. Well, let’s go ahead and discuss the proverbial pink elephant in the room so that we can move on- clear in our conscious for the remainder of this blog.  I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THAT CHURCH. Ok- are we clear? I’m only referencing churches and pastors who have dedicated themselves in doing it the right way.

As Christians, we own nothing. Let me say thing again, you probably are thinking this guy has worked too hard this week. No I’m in my right mind, we own nothing, BUT we are stewards of everything. What God does to and for the person whom He trusts is give them money, resources, and abilities so that they can be a tool in the earth for Him. It was never about how great you are, your advancement is connected to His will and purpose for your life. So the job you have, the car you drive, the money in your bank account is His and you are only managing it for Him. See when the preacher says Give God your life over the pulpit this Sunday, you are going to have a comprehensive understanding of what that really means.

When we truly understand the purpose of increase, then local church pastors will never have to become over concerned about the vision and the finances of their churches they serve at. I strongly believe that if a local church is lacking in any area, then there is someone in that church that is not being a good steward over what God has given them. They are squandering it elsewhere, while leaving the church, the pastor, and God’s vision bankrupt. I also believe that that person will innately put a cap on them self and never grow to their best potential. Imagine this – could it be that the ceiling in your finances, relationships, and career is due to the lack of stewardship and support to God’s agenda. Have you been so YOU focused, that you haven’t fully considered what God wants?

I’m going to stop here. This is enough for you to chew on for today and the rest of the weekend. I hope that you have enjoyed this week’s blogs as much I have. I’m looking forward to spending next week with you again. Love you guys.

The Matters of Money – Part 3

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Happy Wednesday – we are halfway through the work week and I pray that it has been very productive for you. We are continuing our conversation on “The Matters of Money” today. Yesterday we talked about how money is a mirror of the heart, and it will magnify the condition of your heart. Today let’s stay along those same lines, but from a practical perspective.

If you grab your check register, monthly statements, or look at your online account you can get a pretty decent scope of who you are and where you like to spend your money. The question is, what are your financials saying about you?

If there were one image, one image only, that surmised all of your financial transactions for the month of January until now, what would that image be? Could it be one of these?

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Isn’t that interesting? As I said, your money is a mirror; it becomes whatever the person beholding it is? Which picture are you? Could you wear your financial image on the back of your shirt today and not be ashamed? If the answer is no, then you have some changing to do!

I’ve seen great men and women compromise their morality and spirituality due to money. I don’t want you to fall victim to this as you progress in life and in your money. The time is now, to ask God to clean your heart of the impurities that will make idolatry easy. Pray like David, “Create in me a clean heart oh God, and renew in me the right spirit!”

The Matters of Money – Part 1

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We are starting a new series this week on The Matters of Money. I want to share with you 3 practical money making habits that can change the way you handle your money.

  1. Keep your savings account at a different bank than your checking account.

Keeping a savings account takes a discipline seemingly honed by few. The key of a savings account is to deposit money set aside for emergencies, hard times, and/or a nest egg into an interest bearing account, detached from your expense account. Outside of those previously mentioned parameters there shouldn’t be any other reason to withdraw any money from your account. One of the ways to keep the discipline of never withdrawing from your savings is to open up a savings account in a different bank then where your expense account is. This will keep you from having easy access as well as being able to see the balance when you login to balance your expense account.

  1. Buy only what you can afford and what you actually need or really want.

Now to some this may be a mute point. You might say, “of course!” but there are a lot of people who are trying to keep up with the Jones’ proverbially. They spend frivolously, for any reason. If they are emotional they spend, for any reason, any day, any time, THEY SPEND. This is a great principle to enforce to increase your discipline. Let’s say you have the extra 50.00 to spend on an item, you should ask yourself – do I really need or want it, and most of all can I afford it? Remember this – having an extra 50.00, doesn’t mean you can afford to spend 50.00.

  1. Balance your checking account

This is a MUST! If you are the type of person that looks at your account balance online and if there is a balance there you spend it, more than likely you are loosing money left and right. Balancing your account gives you insight of your spending habits, it let’s you see if there are any fraudulent items coming out of your account, and  it gives you an accurate balance. This point is especially important for check writers, because you can write a check today and it not come out of your account until Friday (depending how long it takes for the check bearer to deposit the check on their end) If you only judge your account by what the balance says online, then you will definitely be looking for some hefty overdraft fees.

Stick with us all week as we discuss the matters of money. You guys have a blessed week!

Better is Coming – Part 5

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Well we made it to FRIDAY! We have been declaring and decreeing Better is Coming Better is Coming. We’ve talked about Better coming comprehensively in our lives on earth and Better is Coming in our lives in the ethereal as well. We talked about how you have to raise your consciousness and then let God do exceeding abundantly above what you ask or think.

This has not been a make you feel better session where I fill you’re head up with empty promises. This is a message from God, to you through my fingers. Better is coming! The Bible says in

1 Corinthians 2:9

But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.

See the beauty of this scripture is God is on our side! None of your senses can comprehend what’s coming for you, you can only comprehend it by the Spirit.

God has a plan for your life and that plan is good….listen to what He told Jeremiah 

Jeremiah 29:11

11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end. 

AN EXPECTED END! Now you see what I’m saying? This isn’t just a maxim or jargon, this is God’s word towards you!

Go through the rest of this year in confidence that what’s coming to you is BETTER than what’s been.

I pray you have enjoyed this week’s blogs, enjoy your weekend and remember this: BETTER IS COMING!